Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Stuck in neutral....

Every day we wake up is a new chance to make things happen, to be either positive or negative and to keep moving forward. I'm not gonna lie, most days before I get out of need it feels like I got hit by a truck, but that's the downside of aging and power lifting. Every day I get up, I think today is the day I am going to get organized, get the house cleaned, take the dogs for a walk, and just have boundless amounts of energy. Then reality hits, and I don't do any of that. Why? It's not like I don't have the time. It's more that I am stuck in neutral, and can't get moving in either direction, although if I am being honest, I tend to move backwards more, it's safer I guess. I keep waiting for this magic light to pop on, and all of a sudden, things are more clear, and less intimidating. That somehow, all the clutter I need to go thru won't be so daunting. That the projects we want to get done with the house will start coming together (although that's more just the financial side of things). Sadly, I would rather spend my time training at the gym, working on clients, and hanging out with my husband and our dogs. We all tend to put off things we don't want to do, but it's time to get things taken care of. I have no problem confronting someone on some issue, but I seem to have a problem with de-cluttering my closet. Am I making excuses? Yes. Does that make me pathetic? Maybe a little. It could also be that I am a bit scared, because if truth be told, this brings to light that I am not as organized as I like to think I am. That my priorities aren't as clear as I think them to be. It's also less fun to scrub the deck, clean the basement and pull the weeds than it is to sit on the deck, on a nice summer day, with the dogs, the hubby, some wine and or beer listening to music....but in order to really enjoy the latter part of that statement, I need to get some shit taken care of.....Wish me luck.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Searching for your own "ideal"....

On any given day I am either reading or watching something that has to do with other people's ideals. Whether it be the models showing off the latest styles on the Gap website, reading the latest shit about some reality star or celebrity on some website or entering the front door of the gym. It has been a long time since I have felt good about what I look like, because I have been striving for over 30 years to look like someone else. Someone Else's "ideal". I used to think if I wished for it long enough, I would get longer legs...didn't happen. I thought if I changed my hair color all the time, one of them would finally stick, and I would somehow emerge as this supermodel...that didn't happen either. Year after year, the "ideal" has changed. One year, it's super skinny, the next, curves are okay. Brunettes and redheads were the rage a while back, then blonde's seemed to be everywhere. Tanning was the norm, then it became taboo, so being pure white was in, not for long though, people didn't like being pasty white, not "healthy" looking...When did it become lame to just look like yourself? When did the makers of Botox, and every other filler out there decide we needed to be injected to improve ourselves? When did growing old become a crime? It's been so long I have been chasing the "ideal" that once I started discovering the person I am, it was a bit scary. I don't like skinny jeans, high heels or long hair. I prefer capri leggings, t-shirts and tank tops with my cross trainers. I don't color my hair...GASP and after age 40, that's like mandatory or something I think..I haven't had any plastic surgery, or Botox. My boobs are starting to go back to mother earth and it takes more than one session on the stair climber to get my ass back in shape, but I am learning to embrace these things, well, except the stair climber, that things just evil. What I realize is if we all looked the same, how would that be any better? I continue to see so many celebrities getting Botox, and after a while they all are starting to look like Joan Rivers. I can't tell many of them apart, and that's not my idea of
"ideal"....So pardon me while I walk on a different path, one hopefully full of others that are fighting the same thing, and becoming their own "ideal"....

Monday, June 18, 2012

Courtesy, or lack of, when commenting online.....

Well, I finally broke down and got on Facebook. It only took 100 years, and since I am sure the next best thing is around the corner,  I will be the only one left on it, but hey, c'est la vie. What I have noticed is how easy it is to hurt, offend, ridicule, belittle and in general just be an asshole on it. Well, to be fair, you can do that on any public forum that allows comments. I think it's a bit easier when you post anonymously, that way you can say what you want without fear of retaliation, like someone de-friending you...lol. Sadly, I also think this is where the breakdown began with people being courteous to one another, when people stopped learning or knowing the correct way to communicate with each other, and in general, having manners. No, I don't expect us to go back the turn of the century, but I do expect people to have a bit more decorum with each other. I can respect people having different opinions from my own, I welcome that in fact, makes conversations much more entertaining. I can also agree to disagree with people, but when others feel the need to chime in their two cents and it takes on a personal note and becomes an attack, I have an issue with that. I could give a rats ass that you have over 1000 Facebook friends, or people that you think agree with every word you say, or any opinion you have. Reality check pal, out of those 1000 "friends" about 2 of them are your real ones. The other ones aren't always going to agree with what you have to say, or every thought that you have. Many of those people probably think you are an ass clown, but stay "friends" just to see what stupid shit you are going to post. Growing up, I was taught that if you didn't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. When you post hurtful things online,  and do so anonymously, it really just makes you look like a douche bag, unless that is the effect you were going for, I am not sure. With Facebook, yeah, people can see who you are, but, you still have that protective layer, which enables you to say stupid shit, regardless. As I said, I have no problems with people having different opinions from my own, but I do have a problem when you are just posting replies to people's posts just to hurt, belittle and in general,  be an asshole...besides, if you have over 1000 friends, I would think they would keep you too busy to be on the Internet posting douche bag comments......

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

What is a trainer?

What is a trainer? Easy enough question to answer right? Well, I thought so, but apparently there are different ideas of what a trainer is and should actually be doing. I always thought a trainer was someone who watched over and lent guidance to new people. Someone who shared their knowledge and expertise in a given subject or field. Someone who leads others down a path to help them learn a new position or proper form. It seems this is lost in so many areas of life. At places of employment, I see people left to their own, with a "sink or swim" mentality. Are people afraid to share knowledge with the new person for fear they might pass them over in the future? It seems sabotage is the name of the game, or at least the art of giving as little knowledge to get by and do their job, but not enough to stand out and surpass. It's sad and pathetic to be honest. I look around at the gym where I train, and I see it, day after day: bad form, no correction and little to no interaction. I suppose it makes sense, why have your client actually be successful? Then they won't be paying you any longer. In reality, all this does is make you look like the shitty trainer you actually are. If you have been working with someone, week after week, for over a year, and they haven't change one bit, I'm sorry, but that's an issue, especially when I see how poorly you are training that client. While I understand that when a client leaves the gym, you are no longer responsible, but yet, if you are educating them a lot more than you are currently, they might actually be successful, but then again, that's when they don't need you anymore. Being a successful trainer is hard, it takes time and dedication, not just a weekend certification. And as silly as this may sound, I would rather have 5 successful clients out there, that are showing the results of my educating them, rather than 25 that aren't making me look too good.....

Look, a new movie...same as the old movie....

I just read about a "new" movie coming out soon, it's called "Dredd". Funny how that sounds a bit familiar....Oh wait, it is. Yet another remake. It amazes me how the movie industry can't seem to understand why attendance is down, why people prefer to stay home and rent rather than wasting $25.00 plus for a "movie experience". They've seen all the movies before! Footloose, Total Recall etc...can we PLEASE get some original ideas rather than going back to the 80's and trying to remake the shitty ones over again? Please tell me the 80's were not the last decade a good thought ever came from! Are movie executives that convinced people really aren't smart enough to know when they are being duped? Well, probably, but that's another blog...For now, please, STOP remaking shit movies and praying that by adding some new piece of meat it will be a hit 20 plus years after the original. As soon as that starts happening, I may want to actually go and have a "movie experience" til then, I will stick with paying $3.99 to rent it, and only if I deem it worthy.....

Monday, June 11, 2012

Tired of mediocre unhappy people in the "service" industry...

Well, this will definitely feature a lot of randomness, since it's been forever and a day since I have bothered to blog. Getting pulled, or in all honesty, pulling yourself in different directions will do that to you. Also, in the act of full disclosure, I am not in a pleasant mood, so this will not be a happy rah rah blog either. Sadly, I have tried playing the glad game, but to no avail, I'm still angry, and easily perturbed. Some days I feel like I can truly get past the shortness of manners, and lack of customer service I encounter, then there are times where the shitheads just seem to pile up one after the other, and I really just want to  kick them all...hard. I know I have written about this before, so bare with me, but really, I'm getting tire of mediocre unhappy people justifying being their shitty attitude and behavior towards the outside world, and more specifically, towards me. I can't tell you how many times the past month when we have dined out, how shitty the service was, how lackluster the food tasted and in general how disappointing the experience was. Keep in mind, I have worked in the food industry since I was 15, so it's not like I have never been in their shoes. But really, how hard is it to ask someone if they want another beer, perhaps order more food or to just check in with them? Apparently pretty fucking hard when all you want to do is watch the baseball game that's playing on ALL the fucking t.v's, and ignore the people that are actually keeping them on for you. But it's not just the restaurant experiences that have me miffed. Angie's List. Great concept, and since you pay for the privilege to use the sight, you would expect the people that advertise their business on it would actually WANT the fucking business. Being told" Well, I am bidding on another job in the area, so if I get that, we can squeeze you in, because it's such a small job, one we would lose money on" is NOT something I really want to hear.  Neither is "Well, I'm glad you found someone else because you are a lot further than we really travel to". Again, why the fuck are you advertising work in my area, then upset I might actually want you to come out. It's to chop down a 100 year old oak tree that is monstrous, it's not like I can put it in the back on my prius and drive it to you dip shit. And while I am on the topic of trees, that naturally involves landscaping. My husband and I were interested in doing something with our back yard back in 2007. We contacted a reputable company, had a landscape designer come out, then tell us if we are interested in them putting something together, the cost was $500.00, which would act as a credit when and if we decided to move forward, so we agreed, gave them a check, which was gladly cashed. We received the blueprint of the plan, and were told the cost would run about $30,000. Well gee, don't really have that sitting around, so we held off, and after a few years, decided we really just wanted to put some flowers, mulch perhaps paving etc in the backyard. So, we contacted the company, and were basically told that well, they don't show ANY information regarding the transaction, so we are basically shit out of luck.  What I wonder is how a company can NOT keep records of this kind of thing. We have the check number, date  and the blueprint. We were never given  "credit slip" being told by the landscaper it would be on file. Interesting the landscaper quit a little while after that, even trying to sway us to his new company...soooo tacky...so, it looks like we have a fight brewing on our hands. What bothers me is the fact that WE are the ones that keep calling, leaving messages, and since these people don't want to deal with it, they ignore it, and hope it goes away. Sorry, but $500 is a lot of money, so your gonna have to honor your verbal contract my friend....People that don't deal well with conflict bother me. It's not like I enjoy fighting with people, but I get really tired of people that expect me to go away quietly, and pretend everything is okay. It's not, and I had too many years of being served shit sandwiches and not saying anything about it....No more....It's time people start getting called on their shit, and I for one am not going to apologize for being the first one to do just that....